My Hidden Chimp: From the best-selling author of The Chimp Paradox

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I suspect that there’s not much a book can do about this and that it’s a case of adding your own explanation to the book where it doesn’t exactly meet what the child needs. In this case, I reminded my son about “cooperate or defect?” (as we call Prisoners Dilemna) and how cooperating often means a better result in the end. This is part of the reason I’d recommend the book being read with an adult—customisation. Other

One of the most convincing things about Peters’ theories is their non-revelatory quality. We know that discussing a child’s behaviour with them while they are mid-tantrum is self-defeating. We know the act of smiling makes you feel happier and affects how people respond to you. The book simply serves as a reminder as to how we can use this knowledge to our advantage. Professor Steve Peters – Consultant Psychiatrist – BA, PGCE, MBBS, MEd, MRCPsych, PhD, DSc, Dip Sports Med.We don’t look at our friends and like them for what they achieve, Steve says, we like them for who they are. We should measure our own success in the same way. Are you a positive person who can motivate others? Are you kind? Do you have integrity? If you are measuring success against your values – rather than what car you own or how much you earn – then building self-esteem is in your own hands. 6. Spend ten minutes every day reflecting on whether you’re meeting your values Everyone has a slightly different list, from please and thank you to not being selfish or respecting cultural norms. Think about the effect manners have. Knowing why you do something makes both you - and a child - much more likely to do it. And remember, you are a role model. Habit 7: Trying new things My Hidden Chimp; Helping children to understand and manage their emotions, thinking and behaviour with ten helpful habits. Prof Steve Peters

Your first reaction to not getting what you want is likely to be from your Chimp. Recognise what is happening and put it into words will help. Programme yours and a child’s computer with some helpful beliefs; ‘sometimes we have to be patient’, ‘life doesn’t always go to plan’ and ‘moaning doesn’t help.’ Habit 9: Learning to share The Chimp Paradox (which I also haven’t read) goes into a triple process theory by adding the computer which stores and acts on memories. This isn’t mentioned in My Hidden Chimp, I presume because it is a simplified version for children.] The Book Structure Bullying is a terrible part of life that as a society we can try and remove. However, because it is part of life I think we must first accept its presence and try to help everyone to be resilient when it does happen.For me, the children’s book is the star of the two. Written in comic book style, it uses very child-friendly language (my seven-year-old could read it with ease) and is clearly designed to be used over time rather than devoured in one sitting. A great way to prove this is to ask your child to sit quietly for 30 seconds and count all of the thoughts that pop into their head during that time. The child could say thank you to the chimp for letting them know how they were feeling but are choosing to listen to the sensible voice in their head. Peters also gives comforting advice about the age appropriateness of behaviour and emphasises that meltdowns and complete overreactions are both appropriate and healthy behaviours to have at a young age (which will come as a big relief to those of us used to dinner table meltdowns over being given the wrong colour bowl). It had so much success that even Olympic gold medallist Sir Chris Hoy says that he wouldn’t have won gold at the Beijing Olympics without understanding his inner chimp.